Many people have a certain age they determine others should be mature. The age differs with different people as it is often a matter of opinion. Some feel it should occur when one leaves high school; others think once they complete college a person should be and act mature. Most of the population agrees it should happen by the time a person reaches the age of 30.
Is There A Specific Age To Reach Maturity?
The magical age of 30; however, is not always an accurate marker of maturity as there are people older than this who act very immature. These people are not able to make responsible decisions, and their actions often lead them to emotional, physical, and often financial difficulties. There are also individuals who are much younger than 30 that are mature well beyond their years. It appears that time and age do not determine maturity. Mature persons display traits that enable them to handle their life responsibly and interact with others and the world around them. There are particular attributes a mature person displays.
Growing up many of us establishes a robust personality and as a young person may find it hard to resist the urges or temptations that we know are not good decisions. Consequences are often not considered by the young, only living for the moment and what they can do to make it the best at a given moment. When we mature, we recognize these moments and can exert self-control to resist urges and temptations that come our way. Maturity enables a person to triumph over self-destructive behavior by identifying them and not allowing them to become a pattern.
Mature individuals know the importance of their decisions yet are able to remain modest and humble. You understand that you are not above others and are in fact created equal to all others. Maturity is the ability not to let personal success go to your head and expect others to treat you special or differently. Maturity allows you to be modest and treat other fairly and respect them in any capacity.
Mature persons are grateful for the things that exist in their life. They have the ability to see the benefits in both big and small events that occur in their life. There is also a display of thankfulness for the people in their life that they spend time with and with life itself. Maturity allows people not to take for granted the good things but to appreciate every day and every moment and understand not everyone is as fortunate.
Maturity makes a person more concerned with others and not just themselves. They can see the need others may have and not remain focused on what their needs may be. They can promote unity and celebrate the success of others and not dwell on their failures. This is not to say they will not be disappointed if things do not turn out in their favor, it means they can look beyond them and enjoy the success of others.
A mature individual will view life with a sense of optimism while remaining realistic. They will understand good things cannot continuously occur but are able to stay open-minded and positive in all situations knowing that to not do so would result in despair. Maturity allows one to look forward to the future and all possibilities with the realization that not all will be good. This optimistic outlook on life prepares them for stressful situations when and if they occur.
6. Resilient Nature
Maturity creates a resilient nature in a person that will enable them to cope with all that comes their way. They can stand up to the ugliest situations and look for solutions to problems. These individuals do not let events overwhelm them but instead use the strength they’ve gained from previous events to get them through the tough times. Maturity also allows a person to not dwell on negative things. It prevents them from getting caught up in self-pity and not seeking pity from others. They take a deep breath, face the challenge, and get back on with their life.
When a person reaches a level of maturity, they no longer feel the need to deceive others and have them believe they are something they are not. They become honest and sincere with those around them and understand that if that makes someone feels less about them, it is alright; as it’s better than concealing the truth. Maturity creates the knowledge that you no longer have to lie about who are, you are comfortable with yourself and do not have to wear a mask.
A mature individual develops a great sense of patience. They will know how to bide their time and understand that enjoying the fruits of their labor will eventually come. There is the understanding that things do not always happen as fast as they’d like; some they have to work harder to receive, others just take some time to happen.
There are probably other signs that indicate a person is acting mature. These are some of the more common and obvious ones that the majority of us will recognize. All of us may at one time or another display a trait that others would describe as ‘immature.’ It is a human trait that we cannot all be perfect and are allowed those random, and hopefully rare, slips into childish behaviors.